The 7 stages of Grief are real. I've been through several of them.
2. Pain and Guilt
the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable
pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that
you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from
it with alcohol or drugs.
may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do
with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.
I personally think this is the worst of the 7 stages. The pain of losing my husband was excruciating, I kept telling myself he wasn't really gone, just sleeping....but that is so not right.....and then you have to face the fact you have to bury your loved one. Then the guilt sits in....if i would have only prayed more.....or I loved him more....or I helped him more.....the questions keep going on and on of things I could of done to keep him longer. But of course that wasn't possible. You eventually get over this stage.....and walk right into stage 3. Which I will be posting tomorrow.
My hubby, Thomas, as the young man I fell in with......50 years ago.